You know the repellent jewelry store ads with the slogan "Every kiss begins with Kay," right?
I'd somehow managed to miss that. Ewwww.
I also joined a fraternity when I was an undergraduate. Some of my brothers were decent people, even admirable ones. (I can't think clearly about how the group may have denatured individuals.)
There was one memorable incident, at a party in the fraternity house when I was a grad student. A woman who had belonged to the fraternity for years was living in the house as a post-doc, and her ex-lover came to the party to attempt a reconciliation. When reconciliation didn't work, the ex-lover tried rape, on the theory that D. would be too embarrassed to yell for help, and that a fraternity would not care about stopping f/f date rape. It didn't, exactly...but it cared about "don't you dare hurt our Deb" enough to escort the attempted rapist out and make her emphatically unwelcome until she left town.
It's a memorable incident, but part of why it's so memorable is that everybody was behaving so unexpectedly. I don't understand it, but there it is.
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Date: 2011-08-17 01:58 am (UTC)I'd somehow managed to miss that. Ewwww.
I also joined a fraternity when I was an undergraduate. Some of my brothers were decent people, even admirable ones. (I can't think clearly about how the group may have denatured individuals.)
There was one memorable incident, at a party in the fraternity house when I was a grad student. A woman who had belonged to the fraternity for years was living in the house as a post-doc, and her ex-lover came to the party to attempt a reconciliation. When reconciliation didn't work, the ex-lover tried rape, on the theory that D. would be too embarrassed to yell for help, and that a fraternity would not care about stopping f/f date rape. It didn't, exactly...but it cared about "don't you dare hurt our Deb" enough to escort the attempted rapist out and make her emphatically unwelcome until she left town.
It's a memorable incident, but part of why it's so memorable is that everybody was behaving so unexpectedly. I don't understand it, but there it is.